How much of your time is spent attempting to be the kind of woman that you believe men want?

It's a lot, if you're like most women. You put a lot of effort into looking appealing and seductive.

Presenting yourself as exciting, intriguing, and global while maintaining a complete lack of dependence. You spend a lot of time demonstrating to him how wonderful you would be for him. What a wonderful future he would have with you at his side.

And it is ineffective. It never succeeds. WHY? Why do you labor so arduously? And if he even recognizes you, the guy in your life just takes you for granted? He's probably immature, isn't that why? He doesn't appreciate something until it's gone. Alternatively, perhaps... You've been doing all the work for him, which is why.

The things that men have to labor hardest to obtain are what they cherish most.

Give a man a college diploma, and he won't regard it as highly as he would if he had to work hard and dedicate years of study to obtain it.

If you give a man the ideal girlfriend, he won't value her as much as he would if he had to court her for weeks before asking her out. Playing hard to get succeeds for this reason.

However, as you have likely already seen...

Playing hard to get has a HUGE problem. Once he has you in his possession, that tactic no longer works.

When guys decide they've won you, something happens. It almost seems like they believe the game is done. Their thoughts are already focused on the upcoming task. What is happening?

How can you prevent it from ruining your relationship, though?

Most women give up on finding love. They avoided approaching men too closely out of concern that they could frighten them away. However, other ladies take a different tack. They receive aid. James Bauer, a relationship coach, is one of the persons they consult.

He observed that a lot of his clients were complaining to him about men who were blowing hot and cold. When everything seemed to be going well, suddenly...

Overnight, something would shift.

A guy would abruptly become distant after being friendly, affectionate, and interested. He wouldn't have time for her anymore. He refused to grinned when greeted. He would break off eye contact. He gave me harsh kisses. James looked into it since he wanted to aid his clients.

And everything made sense after what he learned. He understood the reason for these men's retreat. He was aware of their needs and what they were lacking.

The fact that women are innately kind is one of the best things about them.

Regarding you, You are there for your guy at all times. You take care of him. You make time for him all the time. Anything for him, you'd do.

In the process, you never know that...

Actually, you're depriving him of something. You are eliminating his motivation.

He wants to be your hero, you see. He's not looking to you to be his hero.

Men adore heroes. Countless grown guys still find Marvel comics and superhero movies to be fascinating.

Since he was a young child, every guy on Earth has dreamed of becoming the kind of hero who will save the planet while also winning the girl.

Most men's 9–5 employment don't allow them to indulge their desire to save the world.

They aren't required to cut their corporate ties, show their superman side, and rush into action. They may not be able to save the world. They can still win the girl, though.

For a regular guy with a superhuman heart, winning the girl is a worthy goal. Superhuman confidence is required. extraordinary charm extraordinary resistance to pain. All that's left for him to do is...

a young lady in need of a hero. Have You Got a Hero Yet? Just a guess You are not that.

You are powerful. You're self-sufficient. A leaky faucet can be repaired. Driving a stick shift is possible. You are able to look after yourself. You won't ever commit Jerry Maguire's error of seeking a man to complete you.

Instead, you can benefit a man much. You are kind. Kind. Loving. being too generous. Finding a partner who will accept everything you have to offer is what you really want.

And for that reason, heroes aren't appearing in your life. Because of this, you've actually had a lot of takers. Guys who rob you completely and then abandon you. You must put out a call for heroes if you desire one. How? Read on.